When my husband and I got engaged, building a house was not part of our plans. It was not even an option. His proposal was to convert a portion of his parents’ house into a mini pad for us. Since I’ve always looked up to my parents-in-law, I welcomed the idea with open arms. At that time, I hadn’t fully grasped the biblical principle of leave and cleave just yet. Sure, I’ve read a lot of there-can-only-be-one-queen-in-the-house memes but the thought, didn’t bother me.
I still vividly remember our date at Pancake House around seven years ago, when I brought out my pen, got the paper placemat, and drew the very first blueprint of our “house within a house”. We designed it together, every room, nook, and cranny. And it was fun. We were so proud of our work that we actually kept it to this day. Our hearts were full.
Three months into the wedding planning, he told me that the lot across his parents’ house, which was owned by his uncle was being offered to him at a price way below market value. All I said was “WOW”. I found the idea out of our league. I didn’t want to pressure him. Besides, I was honestly happy with our Plan A. The next thing I knew he was already telling me to fast on it. I was excited with the idea but I didn’t want to indulge in it too much. After some time, I got a message from him telling me that he felt that the Lord was giving him the go signal to purchase the lot and build. His fasting period was culminated with the story of God’s promise to King David —
After the king was settled in his palace and the Lord had given him rest from all his enemies around him, he said to Nathan the prophet, “Here I am, living in a house of cedar, while the ark of God remains in a tent.” Nathan replied to the king, “Whatever you have in mind, go ahead and do it, for the Lord is with you.” (2Samuel 7:1-3)
Then King David went in and sat before the Lord, and he said:
“Who am I, Sovereign Lord, and what is my family, that you have brought me this far? And as if this were not enough in your sight, Sovereign Lord, you have also spoken about the future of the house of your servant—and this decree, Sovereign Lord, is for a mere human. (2Samuel 7:18-19)
“Lord Almighty, God of Israel, you have revealed this to your servant, saying, ‘I will build a house for you.’ So your servant has found courage to pray this prayer to you. Sovereign Lord, you are God! Your covenant is trustworthy, and you have promised these good things to your servant. Now be pleased to bless the house of your servant, that it may continue forever in your sight; for you, Sovereign Lord, have spoken, and with your blessing the house of your servant will be blessed forever.” (2Samuel 7:27-29)
I was blessed by my husband’s leadership that was anchored in truth. He told me that whatever
we want is blessed for God is with us. That the Lord is giving us our very own house because it will glorify Him. That it will be in this very house that His plans for our family will take place. That it will be His house, His dwelling place. The process of acquiring the lot and permits went on very smoothly. Truly, He paved the way.
As for the fruits of my fasting, it was my very first lesson on submission. “Wives submit yourselves to your husband as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22) I later on discovered that this principle would be key to a successful and happy marriage. I will save that topic for another post.
Seeing our house as a precious gift from the Lord, we wanted to have an altar and to put crosses in some of the rooms to serve as visual reminders of the His love and light. We wanted our home to be a testament of God’s providence. However, we had a hard time looking for pieces that would match the modern, minimalist interiors of our home. Most if not all of the pieces in the market were traditionally and elaborately designed. We realized that while architectural design has evolved over the years, the designs of religious pieces have remained the same. It took us months before we finally found one but it was still not the style we had in mind. We casually thought of the idea of modernizing religious pieces and pitched it to a good friend from Couples for Christ who was also our furniture maker. Now, we are in awe to realize
that the very house He built for our family has led us to bring THE CARPENTER to life.
And now, Lord God, keep forever the promise you have made concerning your servant and his house. Do as you promised, so that your name will be great forever. Then people will say, ‘The Lord Almighty is God over Israel!’ And the house of your servant David will be established in your sight. (2Samuel 7:25-26)
I am beyond grateful to be given this opportunity to honor Him through a project that allows me to combine my passion for design and my faith. It is also such a sweet, red cherry on top that it enabled me to let go of my corporate career and work from home, allowing me to have the flexibility I need to first and foremost be a wife to my husband and a mother to my kids.
Our wedding verse was from Psalm 37:4 – Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Looking back at how things transpired, I learned that the verse was not simply about getting what you desire by delighting in Him. The desire of my heart was a small space, whether it be a condo or a chopped up portion of my in-laws’ house. The desire of my heart was to work my way up the corporate ladder. But He gave me so much more, beyond what I desired. I learned that by delighting in the Lord, your desires will be aligned with His. By delighting in the Lord, you will open yourself to His desires for you. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways” declares the LORD. (Isaiah 55:8) Whether He gives a lot more or a lot less than what you want, will not matter anymore. By delighting in the Lord, your dreams and His will be one.
…choose today whom you will serve.
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15